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10 Tips for Divorcing a Narcissist Spouse 

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The term "narcissist" refers to a person who is excessively self-absorbed and lacking in empathy. Narcissism often manifests itself as a need for admiration and attention. Someone with narcissistic tendencies may try to control or manipulate other people, intentionally start drama, or be excessively aggressive. 

If you are divorcing a narcissistic spouse, then you know that the process is likely to be long, draining, and frustrating. There is no way to eliminate hardship and challenges during your divorce completely, but the following tips may help. 

Getting Divorced When Your Spouse Has Narcissistic Tendencies 

If you are planning to end your marriage and your spouse exhibits narcissistic behaviors, it is important to have a plan in place for how to deal with the personal, financial, and legal complexities you may face during divorce. 

  1. Work with an experienced attorney -  Dealing with a narcissist during divorce proceedings is likely to be difficult and exhausting. As such, it is important to have an experienced attorney on your side who can help you navigate the legal process and protect your interests.

  2. Gather documentation - If your spouse tries to manipulate or gaslight you during the divorce process, having objective documentation will be crucial. Gather financial documents, emails, text messages, and any other evidence that may be relevant to your case.

  3. Create distance - During the divorce process, it is important to create both physical and emotional distance from your spouse. You may want communication with your spouse to take place through your respective attorneys.

  4. Be prepared for a fight - If your spouse is a narcissist, he or she may be unwilling to compromise or cooperate during the divorce process. Alternative resolution methods like mediation may be insufficient. 

  5. Focus on your own well-being - It is important to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally during the divorce process. Make time for yourself, exercise, eat well, and participate in activities you enjoy. 

  6. Lean on your support system -  Friends and family can provide much-needed emotional support during the divorce process.

  7. Do not stoop to your spouse's level -  Narcissists often resort to name-calling, personal attacks, and other forms of verbal abuse. Do not stoop to your spouse's level; instead, remain calm and focused on the task at hand.

  8. Avoid social media -   Social media can be a minefield during the divorce process. Do not post anything about your divorce on social media, and avoid sharing information about new purchases or other financial transactions. 

  9. Get a protection order if you are in danger - If your spouse has threatened, harassed, or abused you or your children, you may want to get an emergency order of protection. 

  10. Keep your eye on the prize - The divorce process can be long and drawn out. It is important to keep your ultimate goals in mind and remain laser-focused on the future.

Contact Our Experienced Joliet Divorce Lawyers 

At the Law Offices of Tedone & Morton, P.C., we know that some spouses intentionally make the divorce process as difficult and stressful as possible. Our experienced Plainfield divorce lawyers are committed to protecting your interests and helping you obtain the best possible outcome in your case. To learn more about how we can help you, call us at 815-666-1285 to schedule a free consultation.




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